The Power Of Love by Debbie Kuks
October 5, 2014
Nicholas is married to Nancy, the love of his life, and so much in love with Her. In his eyes she is perfect. Everything she does is so great, and she has no blemish in his eyes. He is ever patient with her when she yells at him when it wasn't even necessary, he just wants to hug her at every opportunity; He waits for her and waits on her without being frustrated, even when she takes forever to get ready for an event they are supposed to have been hours prior to her getting ready. Nicholas' love for Nancy is a perfect example of the true definition of love, unconditional love.
Nancy on the other hand loves Nicholas but in her eyes, he is close to being perfect. She always has one or two complaints when he does something she feels he shouldn't be doing. She nags him, yells when she feels he is not doing something the way she would have done it, which she says, "it's the right way," and would fuss at every opportunity. The love Nancy has for Nicholas is what I call, "conditional love."
Conditional love looses patient, it's sometimes unkind, jealous, rude and arrogant. It demands its own way, "it's way or the high way;"it is easily irritable, and forever keeps record of wrong. It gives up after certain chances or opportunity given to redeem itself has passed, and can loose hope easily even in the one it says he/she loves. For example, Nancy would bring to Nicholas' memory what he'd thought they'd resolved years ago, and paint the occurrence fresh in his memory like it just happened hours ago. Conditional love never forgets wrongs.
Unconditional Love on the other hand is patient and kind. It is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Most marriages today go through so much struggle because most of it is fueled with conditional love. Love that isn't blind to wrong, and Never forgets wrongs. Storing up your spouses wrongs is a disaster waiting to happen. Marriage is about two forgivers living together and making sure past occurrences are forever flushed to the sea of forgetfulness.
Marriage is 100%-100%. The two people involved must give each other 100% of their self. Some people say it is 50%-50%, and I ask, where is the other 50% of that person? Are you saying, you can only give 50% of yourself to your spouse, and you hold on to the other 50%? This is pure selfishness, and it is unwise and unhealthy. From the book of the beginning, Genesis, Adam and Eve were naked and weren't ashamed. It means they had nothing left of one another to hide from each other. This is the true essence of marriage.
This definition of love, unconditional love, must be present in all marital relationships because love is the core essence of any relationship. Therefore let your love be pure, unconditional, and undeniably true. Love conquers all. A couple is empowered to conquer all life challenges if their love stays unconditionally true.
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