The Pains, The Groans, My Relationship….(2)

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The only friend i could confide in was facing similiar issues. I just quit my relationship with Babs.. girlfriend, I have given up; Florence said with no regrets. Well, it seems I'm not the only one in this dark phase; I responded. florence has been a good friend right from secondary school. From the little I knew about her previous relationships, she has been lucky. how her recent relationship backed up is what i seem not to comprehend. I have witnessed parties organized secretly by Babs. I got jealous of how he showers her with and expensive stuffs. Babs is one responsible guy i know. He is well-cultured and jovial. Florence is hardly around because its either she is on vacation or on tour abroad with her boo. She recently shared her plans of celebrating their fouth year of being together in Dublin. when asked of why they seperated, she explained how Babs was fond of beating her to stupor when he gets angry. I only enjoy Babs when he is in a good mood. we go on trips to make up for our fights. You need to see how bad it turns out when he beats me, you will pity me; she explained. There I was, imagining a great future and a perfect home with Frank. Before things went worse, we had talked about getting married and having kids since we werent getting any younger. This was all i have hope for. I had dreamt so many times of how frank would go on his kneels and say those sweets words to propose to me. All were just fantasies. With the way things are going its like my hope has been cut short. Thank God I havent introduced him to my parents, it would have been terrible. I feel so unhappy with myself. I have wasted my years with a guy I thought was meant for me. Maybe he was, maybe we needed a break or i needed to understand him. But what could be comprehendable in a good guy turned bad?? I wasnt bothered anymore but i watched my phone every moment if he would call. Frank failed me, he broke my heart. this feeling keeps killing me. Now i ask myself, where do i start from, how do i handle my emotional distability.. how do i face the huge mockery i would get from friends. wondering why i should be bothered about what friends say, of course i have to, remember i threw it to their face when i met Frank. *sighs* Indeed, my neighbour is just a lucky babe. maybe she was careful at the beginning. well!!!! maybe the next will be better.


  1. Shobande Keymon Yomi

    March 21, 2015 at 9:58 am


  2. Chiamaka Emmanuella Onuoha

    March 21, 2015 at 10:14 am

    The good,responsible and ur right man is on the way sis.maybe frank is not just pray and be careful next time.

  3. Eunice Aigbokhae

    March 21, 2015 at 10:27 am

    Interesting story

  4. Sandra Chinasa Deborah

    March 21, 2015 at 11:20 am

    My dear, in cases like dis don’t bother urself too much abt wat pple will say. U re nt d first person dat hv encountered such a thing n u won’t be d last person. And again, u re wrong by drawing an inference on hw lucky ur neighbour is in her relationship cos dey may appear romantically entangled with each outside bt wat happens inside is wat u don’t knw. There is saying in my place dat says “every house licks water”. Put urself 2gether n look forward a greater favor n don’t rush it. Its never too late Ok?

  5. Tyra Bello

    March 21, 2015 at 12:03 pm

    This is sad… Why do men see joy in beating up a lady… Why, it frightens me

  6. Grace Aigbokhae

    March 21, 2015 at 12:40 pm

    Its well, i like the concluding part of your story. Have faith the next will be the best.

  7. Louis Offor

    March 21, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    Well…your story ended in a self comforting style. However, i do feel there is still something ugly about your character that you hid in it. Don’t make it appear like the relationship failing was just the guy’s fault alone, no it isn’t, it is also your own failure. Afterall, you only paid attention to appearance and aesthetics in your decision making heading into this failed relationship. But be that as it may i’ll advice you move on and this time around ensure all the failings you experienced in this very relationship becomes valuable lessons for you in your next relationship. Ciao!

  8. Ndubuisi Oscar

    March 21, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    My dear carry on with your life, you two are not meant for each other. The right person is coming, just remember not to make the first mistake you made, if any in you next relationship.

  9. Sandra Chinasa Deborah

    March 22, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    Just take it as a precedent. Don’t make d same mistake again.