is beautiful but more beautiful to have someone to share it with. In the words of Teddy Pendergrass, "It's so good loving somebody, and somebody loves you back." Can you imagine falling in love with "you", talking to "you" 24/7, dining with "you" 365days a year, and shopping with "you" forever? It will definitely defeat the purpose of the human mandate, which is to be fruitful, multiply, subdue, and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:28).
Man was created for fellowship, procreation, dominion, communication, and to fill the earth with such. Therefore the quote that says, "No man is an island", is absolutely absolute. No one is supposed to live alone forever. It is great to love oneself, date oneself in order to get more familiar with what makes one happy or sad, what one has high or low tolerance for, etc, so as to know who to associate with or not; but that should only be for a season in one's life
, and not a lifetime. Loving oneself is eternal of course, also sharing it with someone else is an eternal bliss.
Communication is imparting or exchanging thoughts, opinion, ideas, with someone else; it could in writing, signs, or speech. Therefore communication is the string that ties all relationships, including marital relationship. If
a married couple are not communicating with one another, then there is no relationship, likewise all relationships. The power of communication is that it keeps the relationship flowing towards the desired destination with all parties present. It carries everyone along, and no one is absent from different phases of the relationship, and nothing comes as an "unusual" surprise along the journey of life. As married couples, your spouse should be the first person you run to share things with, and should be your best friend. Do NOT feel more comfortable sharing secrets with other people other than your spouse? Your spouse should be first to know everything.
This kind of effective communication gives no room for "secret blackmail" or exploitation from a third party. Effective communication also boost ones confidence and gives one solid assurance that there are no dark secrets anywhere that one isn't aware of. This is why it is important you tell it all to your spouses; after all all married couples are supposed to have a "naked" relationship, holding nothing back. As married couples, you should be able to tell your spouse anything and everything, and deal with any issue in your home without a third party involved (if possible). If there is a breakdown in communication, then the enemy can subtly come and invade your home with strife, discord, and eventually break the home.
Married folks, stop having friends you cannot introduce to your spouses, and sharing secrets with them. Leaving your bed to talk to someone other than your spouse at 12am or beyond is unacceptable. Pray with your spouses everyday. "A family that prays together stays together." If you do not know how to communicate with your spouse, pray to God to help you have an effective communication and relationship, or seek a counselor, or help. God is the Great Counselor, so I highly recommend him.
Finally, Pray and keep praying, but never give up. The devil hates unity, and oneness, so fight with your last breath, if you have to, to keep communication flowing in your home. God bless you all!
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