This is one rivalry that will never cease to amuse me. When I was slim, very slim, I had people (women)always telling me that I was too skinny- but they all were dieting. They told me I dressed like a small girl simply because they couldn’t look as good if they wore what I wore: you know how spaghetti straps make a slim girl look sporty and a plump girl seem slutty! I even had someone come up to me and ask if I felt I was a model. You can guess what my answer was.
So at some point in my life, middle age thickening set in and I put on some good weight. Then they came for me again. There were those who raised an alarm and warned that if I didn’t start dieting, I would become very fat indeed. They said I look like someone who will be very fat; I’m wondering if its written on my forehead, is there a method of knowing who will be fat in future that I’m not aware of?
I took to their advice and started exercising. Luckily, I got back to a size 6 in a wink. Then I was again on the hotspot. Women told me I was too tiny to command any respect (who owes me this respect?). That no one will know that I am married or have kids (my mission in life is not for people to know about those, seriously, who cares?). But these women were always on one diet plan or the other. At this point I gave up on people’s opinions. You can never satisfy everyone at the same time. Even God, despite all he has done and still does hasn’t. After all sometimes you want it to rain and I don’t, and if it rains I am not satisfied!
I have found out that people often criticize what they covet. Slim girls are so arrogant toward the fat girls, because they believe they are finer and have better chances of attracting guys. False! I know a good number of men who would not as much as touch you with a long broom if you were less than a size 12! Meanwhile the fat girl is envious of the slim girl and tries to run her down again and again – calling her a broomstick! For your information, most slim girls want to gain some weight! Therefore what exactly is the sense in envying anyone on the opposite side of the divide?
Ladies can we stop the hate already and start loving our bodies as is. I have a friend who is fat (size 18) and decided to rock a bikini at our beach party. She had tried to lose some weight for over 10 years and hadn’t made much progress. So she went to get her a Bikini, she was tired of waiting on a flat tummy. And damn she was some voluptuous heap that day!
Be confident in your slim-no-cleavage-body or your fat-big-bum-bum one, everybody is a winner if only they stopped hating.
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