Every one out of five ladies married their own husbands, and it's quite unfortunate the rest married, "settlement", "gifts", "desperation", "covetousness", "another woman's husband", "money", "lust", "things", "out of pity", and the list goes on.
The most vital information most ladies do not know is that the power to choose is in your hands. But for the men, the bible says: "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains favor of The Lord." Therefore, it is the commandment for a man to find, but the decision to choose is in the ladies hands.
Just because a man finds you does not mean you have to agree to follow him. Are you saying if a notorious armed robber or drug addict decides to find, and propose marriage to you, and knowing fully well what he does, you will agree to marry him? I wouldn't think so. Therefore the decision to choose lies in your hands, ladies. This is the most powerful tool anyone could have given you. The power to choose wisely lies in your bosom.
God, your creator gave humanity the same power to choose. Your Creator, will never force Himself on anyone hence saying: "Choose you this day whom you will serve?", And, "I have set before you life and death, blessing and curses, therefore choose life that you and your offspring may live." (Deuteronomy 30:19). God can only advise you on the two or more paths He'd set before you, but at the end of the day, you have to make the decision to choose where you see yourself ending up.
I have seen ladies who cannot stand liquor or cigarettes, get married to alcoholics, or an excessive smoker, thinking they have the power to change such people. Ladies, he will be the one to change you, and before you know it, you're a party to what he does, and even stuffing the refrigerator or the house with the cigarettes or alcohol. No one has the power to change anyone! The only power you've been given is the power of choice, and not of change. It is the Holy Spirit that can change an individual. Remember, "Bad friends will ruin good habits." (1 Corinthians 15:33). Likewise bad spouses, will either bring you down or make your journey in life lifeless.
I sincerely applaud some ladies, knowing fully well that they aren't highly discerning concerning choosing a life partner, thereby evoking their rights to choose, and giving their will to God, trusting He knows the heart of man more than His creation. This is the best decision anyone can make! You can do likewise if you know you're weak in this area. God can choose a better man more than you can ever choose. Pray to him to direct your own husband(s) to you, and alienate you from any "time wasters, heartbreakers, and destiny killers", and I trust He will. God gives us the desires of our hearts if we delight ourselves in The Lord. (Psalms 37:4)
So please do not marry under the impression of, 'things will change once we get married.' Marriage itself is an empty canvass, it is what you draw or put in it that you will get out of it; and that is what structures the foundation, and the end result of a blissful or unsuccessful marriages. You are the one to bring in what you want to see in your marriage, likewise your spouse. This is why your choice is important. Never ever forget that!
Finally, to avoid series of unrelenting sorrowful situations that could have been avoided from the foundation of building a lifelong marriage or relationship, make sure you exercise wisely the power of choice. Fast and pray NOW to choose wisely a life partner that will make your home blissful, than to eternally fast later on, just to see that blessed day your spouse will change. Everyone can enjoy a healthy relationship with a life partner, but the foundation must be laid well, and the power to choose must be effectively utilized.
Have a blessed week!
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