I saw the end of my marriage even before I knew it was going to end.
I saw it the day my ex and I visited his folks and one of his uncles said......
"Funke, shey you know say as u neva born boy for us, your leg neva strong for here o. These girls way you get no join. Na boy matter to us"
I was livid. I saw red. Who no join? My kids? *smh*
What made me really mad was not what the man said. He was a nonentity. He didn't matter.
What made me crazy was the fact that my ex laughed and told him.....
"Yes o. I've told her. The next one must be a boy. Compulsory."
And he wasn't joking.
What made me double mad was that his sister who I considered a friend also piped in.....
"She knows the next one has to be a boy. My brother must have a son."
I was so pissed.
What next one? There was not going to be a next anything. And I just knew that union had run it's course.
There has been subtle talk and silly remarks before then but to talk and denigrate my kids in my presence and expect me to laugh about it with you like it was a huge joke, you must be smoking something strong.
When a man complains that his wife didn't give him a son, two things come to my mind. 1. The dude is an illiterate 2. Even if he isn't one, it is certain he failed Biology woefully.
When the whole thing was gradually falling apart and my ex sis in law asked me to come for a reconciliation meeting. I went there and decided to vent. After venting, this lady told me....
"That's the problem with all you these Lagos girls. You have no patience. All these feminist thing you are doing won't pay you o. Better hold on to your husband".
I told her to eat her brother up.
I really don't blame her. It was her brother. She had to pick sides. She obviously picked his.
I don't blame her but I don't understand it.
That's why I'll always say the worst person you can go to for advice if your marriage is shaky is your mummy G.O or Pastor mummy Mrs.
Women give shitty advice. Arrrrghhhhh!
Even with random females, I've never understood the rationale behind a woman not having another woman's back especially when wrong has been done to that woman by a man.
I simply don't understand it.
A woman is angry and needs to rant to get it out of her system and another woman is telling her......
"Shhhh.....don't shout so much before they'll call you an angry feminist".
How about don't call me anything? How about just let me do what I need to do to get over whatever hurt I'm dealing what?
How about just get out of my sight?
How about that?
Credits: Funke Philips
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